Is this misbehaviour, or something else?

Well, sweetie, it is kind of difficult to say for sure right now, since she is so very young....My first question might be....how is she doing in school....does this ever happen at school...or at grandma's house or at her friend's house....or is she just acting this way around you, because she knows it gets to you...maybe an attention seeking-behavior....without much to go on as to what happened in her young life, do you feel that she has a bit of anger towards you about what happened in her past...??? Perhaps, did your ex do alot of blaming you or ranting and raving about you in front of your young daughter, which maybe has lead her to have these subconsious underlying resentments for you.....I really don't know your situation here, but am blindly trying to give you some possibilities for you to look at... And, maybe she is just acting out and knows what ons to push for to make you upset or angry....It must be very difficult for you, and I truly hope that you may get to the bottom of the problem here...Your daughter is getting old enough now, where soon, you will be able to sit her down and have a real heart to heart with her...Just tell her how much you love her, but that you are concerned about her behavior, and put the question to her....Ask her, how do you feel we should handle it when you are misbehaving or when you don't listen to me....how do you think it makes me feel when you do that to me...and then ask her....how do you think you would feel if I acted like that whenever you asked me to do something....make her look at what she is doing....make her think about what she can do to help the situation to become closer and have a happier relationship with you....Maybe she just wants to be heard....really devote some time to talk with her about this....I wish for the both of you much happiness and everything good that life has to offer....(((((HUGS))))...Linda